Was on the beach having coffee with wife this morning. Sitting on the beach-chair, thinking of what we're doing and what we're going to do later. As we were discussing, I realized how easy I was in getting myself busy even with the idea of relaxation...
Earlier, while trying to do my daily bible-reading, the temptation of the hurried-mind created a mental block in getting the insights I needed to fuel my soul.
Therefore, I decided, while taking the swing, to let things be as it is. I guess it has to start from letting things go as it should. I use to believe there is no such thing as letting nature take its flow as everything must/should have it's purpose and as industrious human-beings, we ought to take charge and manage. Well, however true that conviction may-be...NOT APPLICABLE TO HOLIDAYS!!! :)
As such, we took it easy.. I went on upload photos, did some emails, watching the opposite unit watching TV, listening to Joanne Wang and Diana Krall while wife took a dip on the tub. Hmm.. what a peaceful and easy-going sunday afternoon...
Sunday, July 3, 2011
Monday, June 27, 2011
Deep flight challenger and the org of this planet
The deepest trench or depth of this world is the Mariana trench. And the deep flight challenger will be to undergo 5 missions to visit the deepest parts of planet earth to see what goes on beneath.
The company behind, virgin oceanic, funds such researches and the man behind. Died in 2007, now renewed by Welsh, who hopes to carry out this expedition in 2011.
I realized that excellence comes when we push ourselves-human, to the limit.
I also realized that there are many organizations out there who has the money n capabilities, but not the driving courage for the missions.
Putting their lives at stake for the sake of testing the human limits. Would I do that?
The company behind, virgin oceanic, funds such researches and the man behind. Died in 2007, now renewed by Welsh, who hopes to carry out this expedition in 2011.
I realized that excellence comes when we push ourselves-human, to the limit.
I also realized that there are many organizations out there who has the money n capabilities, but not the driving courage for the missions.
Putting their lives at stake for the sake of testing the human limits. Would I do that?
Sunday, June 12, 2011
Afraid of being silly
I realized that people are many times afraid to be classified as 'not knowing' in today's society. I believe living in information age has made us fear to be labelled as one who doesn't know.
The other side of the equation is also true, where people in this age ARE expected to know! The demand for excellence is applied not to myself alone, but inevitably to people around as well.
Example was in my usual Sunday class. One of my student refused to acknowledge that she was not listening during class. Not that I will punish or scold, in my opinion, a student who wasn't paying attention will lose out in class in any-way to one who pays full attention and process those info into thoughts.
Another instance was another student who gave me a loss look yet unwilling to acknowledge that she is lost.
What's wrong with not-knowing?
Where are the values in honesty, humility and teachability placed in the ranking against pride, show-off and arrogance?
The other side of the equation is also true, where people in this age ARE expected to know! The demand for excellence is applied not to myself alone, but inevitably to people around as well.
Example was in my usual Sunday class. One of my student refused to acknowledge that she was not listening during class. Not that I will punish or scold, in my opinion, a student who wasn't paying attention will lose out in class in any-way to one who pays full attention and process those info into thoughts.
Another instance was another student who gave me a loss look yet unwilling to acknowledge that she is lost.
What's wrong with not-knowing?
Where are the values in honesty, humility and teachability placed in the ranking against pride, show-off and arrogance?
Monday, May 30, 2011
Discussing about the rules of engagement
Never realized the day would come for me to have a set of rules of engagement in the course of my marriage. I always see it as a form of legalism which marriage and love should be able to conquer.
Nonetheless, imperfect as we are, selfish as our hearts would be, we have no choice but to discuss and came to this conclusion; In order to allow and help each other to be better communicators and partners, we need to have some set of rules to allow for vulnerability..
And so we set some of ours:
1) when one talk to share our feelings, just listen and don't try to defend.
2) when we want to speak, we ask if it's ok for us to speak.
Nonetheless, imperfect as we are, selfish as our hearts would be, we have no choice but to discuss and came to this conclusion; In order to allow and help each other to be better communicators and partners, we need to have some set of rules to allow for vulnerability..
And so we set some of ours:
1) when one talk to share our feelings, just listen and don't try to defend.
2) when we want to speak, we ask if it's ok for us to speak.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Understanding conflicts in communication
Learnt about whenever there are conflicts and problems, we need to first identify whether:
1. Is it a communication problem?
2. Is it a character issue reflected by historical evidences? In short, does similar thing like this happen before?
3. Does it happen a lot?
Key:
1. Learn to bring things up without creating or initiating conflicts.
2. Give space for growth. I think the only way we can learn to improve communication would be to make small and short mistakes for growth.
1. Is it a communication problem?
2. Is it a character issue reflected by historical evidences? In short, does similar thing like this happen before?
3. Does it happen a lot?
Key:
1. Learn to bring things up without creating or initiating conflicts.
2. Give space for growth. I think the only way we can learn to improve communication would be to make small and short mistakes for growth.
The difference of identity and self-image
I learnt the difference between identity and self image today.
Self image is a self-given view of myself that is shaped by the things around me. Meaning, if I grew up fat, careless, lazy, and the world sees me and puts me down in that way, i will have those self image characteristics. Self image is easy to build up, and easy to be identified. Self image can also be destructive!
Identity on the other-hand is a god given status of my life. Some eg. I am a child of God. I am a
Man. I am loved by God. I am jesus's disciple. I am a leader at home and at work. I am the son at my parents house. Identity is the image which God has entrusted us with and would like us to project to live life the way He intended me to be.
Eg, If I am a child of God, God loves me very-very much. Since i am a leader at work and church, I am given the ability to inspire and encourage.
Our identities would be supplemented with talents a.k.a. Resources like time, money, relationships. Identities also comes with natural gifting, and anointment. Gifting such as natural abilities to do something extra ordinary that will suit and fill what we are suppose to be doing. Anointment covers the part where God will bless and empower us in the place we are living the identity and using those talents and gifting.
In my life, I realized that my identity as a child of God, blessed with wonderful relationships, gifted with computers and teaching, sometimes makes me wonder what in the world am I doing in Singapore. Nonetheless, I believe that everything has their time and place, plus, I always believe that we simply need be prepared. God will direct the paths.
Self image is a self-given view of myself that is shaped by the things around me. Meaning, if I grew up fat, careless, lazy, and the world sees me and puts me down in that way, i will have those self image characteristics. Self image is easy to build up, and easy to be identified. Self image can also be destructive!
Identity on the other-hand is a god given status of my life. Some eg. I am a child of God. I am a
Man. I am loved by God. I am jesus's disciple. I am a leader at home and at work. I am the son at my parents house. Identity is the image which God has entrusted us with and would like us to project to live life the way He intended me to be.
Eg, If I am a child of God, God loves me very-very much. Since i am a leader at work and church, I am given the ability to inspire and encourage.
Our identities would be supplemented with talents a.k.a. Resources like time, money, relationships. Identities also comes with natural gifting, and anointment. Gifting such as natural abilities to do something extra ordinary that will suit and fill what we are suppose to be doing. Anointment covers the part where God will bless and empower us in the place we are living the identity and using those talents and gifting.
In my life, I realized that my identity as a child of God, blessed with wonderful relationships, gifted with computers and teaching, sometimes makes me wonder what in the world am I doing in Singapore. Nonetheless, I believe that everything has their time and place, plus, I always believe that we simply need be prepared. God will direct the paths.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Realizing That People Do/Give/Work for a reason to benefit self.
I work for money.
I go to church for a relationship with God and people, plus, I am afraid to go to hell.
I get married for companionship and love. Because I don't want to be all alone and I long for a family to go home to.
I blog to remember and reinforce what I learn. Because I oft forget.
I mentor youths to improve my parenting/mentoring skills and gain greater sense of purpose with my life.
I serve in the Audio/Visual team at church because I am blessed with a gift and to contribute in the community, I serve.
I tithe because I fear God.
I teach voluntarily because I hope to use this experience to improve myself - confidence, presentation, organization, and teaching.
See. In every possible good things, there is a reason. In a way, people will not do things if the reason they do it, doesn't benefit them. I just thought and discussed with Wife about it. I realized how difficult it is to be a co-ordinator for volunteers in an organization because it's difficult to formalize a carrot of possibly 'non-tangible' benefits. How can one measure 'satisfaction', 'gratitude', and 'charity' to one's appetite?
I go to church for a relationship with God and people, plus, I am afraid to go to hell.
I get married for companionship and love. Because I don't want to be all alone and I long for a family to go home to.
I blog to remember and reinforce what I learn. Because I oft forget.
I mentor youths to improve my parenting/mentoring skills and gain greater sense of purpose with my life.
I serve in the Audio/Visual team at church because I am blessed with a gift and to contribute in the community, I serve.
I tithe because I fear God.
I teach voluntarily because I hope to use this experience to improve myself - confidence, presentation, organization, and teaching.
See. In every possible good things, there is a reason. In a way, people will not do things if the reason they do it, doesn't benefit them. I just thought and discussed with Wife about it. I realized how difficult it is to be a co-ordinator for volunteers in an organization because it's difficult to formalize a carrot of possibly 'non-tangible' benefits. How can one measure 'satisfaction', 'gratitude', and 'charity' to one's appetite?
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